I decided to move my posts related to sexual health to my new blog at GetDirti.com so that posts about myself are kept separate. Check out the site when you get a chance. Also, I’d like to say thanks to those of you who reached out to me to let me know how you found the sexy articles useful in improving your relationships. Keep it up!
A much overdue vacation to warmer weather is right around the corner for my fiance and I – woohoo! The warm Caribbean sun, salty air, and cold drinks will surely drive the last thoughts of midwest cold temps from our thoughts. Good riddance too – even if only for a short while.
I’m certainly looking forward to this getaway, as the last few months have been extremely hectic with the birth of our son , post-birth parent learning pains, as well as the usual rigors of work and other items. Some time along with my sweetheart, along with plenty of time for relaxation, is exactly what’s needed for this guy. Once I get a chance to recharge a bit, you’ll likely see a slew of new posts from me.
Everything – and I mean everything – that we thought we’d be able to get done or accomplished in the past few months got tossed out the window as soon as we realized just how much work learning how to manage a newborn would be. They don’t seem to tell you that in the parenting books, but it’s something all new parents find out sooner or later.
One of my college buddies said it to me best like this: “Just realize that your old life is completely and utterly over”. Sage advice AK!
It was just a year ago that I was sure I was going to die alone without finding my soulmate. The thought of that being even a minute possibility drove me to start a busy schedule of dating, where I was going out on 4-5 new dates each week. I figured that if I was going to find my soulmate, I needed to begin the work of doing so ASAP. Fortunately for me, I managed to meet her just over two months into my dating foray. In the months since I first met her, my life has changed in ways I never thought possible.
I knew she was special as soon as I met her and our initial coffee date lasted nearly three hours. The conversations flowed freely and I could tell she was someone that I was both comfortable with and enamored by. A few days later we went out to dinner on our first “official” date. I could feel a connection with her that was unlike any other I had experienced before. And so, without much fanfare, I told her all the “bad” things about me once our date was over. I could tell I really liker her and I didn’t want to waste my time or hers if I wasn’t right for her. After I finished telling her all my faults she surprised me by telling me that I was basically a male version of her. I was in awe that I had found someone who could accept me for who I was.
Two days ago I proposed to her and she accepted. I can’t fully express how happy I am to have a partner that’s so wonderful and I’m excited to see what adventures we have as we move through life together. I love you babe!
Last November I made the decision to say goodbye to my unhappy marriage and strike it out on my own. It was time to rediscover myself – who I was, what I liked, what I wanted, and who I wanted to be with. Although I’m perfectly capable of being happy with being single, I knew I wanted to find someone who would help make my life more fulfilling. Life is just better when it’s spent with someone you love.
Just in time to recover from the stresses of work, I’m soon off to another island for new adventures and some much needed R&R.
There’s no ignoring the siren call of the warm Caribbean as the cold of winter approaches. Warm sand, clear blue water, swaying palm trees, and chilled drinks have a unique way of reviving your inner zen when life gets too hectic on the mainland.
Bermuda is the next stop on my travel list. I’m looking forward to meeting up with old friends, getting some nice color, and relaxing while on island. See you soon Bermuda!
There’s something absolutely amazing about being in a relationship with someone who does the little things that make it so good. A post-it note here that says “I Love You”, a handwritten note there that says “Have a great day”. Little reminders everywhere that you’re in a great relationship – with someone who cares about you and thinks about you. I’m pretty sure I’m one of the most fortunate guys around. 🙂 Love you too babe!
I honestly never thought I’d find someone so wonderful so quickly after my last relationship ended. I had dated quite extensively last winter, but didn’t expect that my latest solo period in life would come to an end after just a few months.
Dearest Amelia: TT here. No, not “Grandpa TT”. Just “TT” now. Remember how you came to call me “TT”? It’s because you couldn’t pronounce “Ethan”. I really loved hearing you call my name. Your and your brothers’ smiles and enthusiast mornings were something I really cherished and looked forward to each weekend. I miss you and I love you dear Amelia. It’s been a really long time since I’ve seen you and your brother and I just wanted to say hello and give you both a virtual hug.
You’re too young to realize it now Amelia, but you changed my life forever in many ways and I wanted to thank you for the wonderful times we spent together.
I missed the chance to see Eve6 in June when I opted to head to a Selena Gomez concert with family and friends, so I jumped at the opportunity to take a road trip with my girlfriend to see them in Montana in late July. What a great experience!
Ah, the draw of the open air summer concerts. It had been some time since I had attended Lollapalooza or other outdoor concert that featured sweaty bodies, spilled beer, spiked hair, pierced bodies, and a mix of musical artists. I remember well the days of getting sweaty, dusty, and tired just to have the chance to see my favorite bands play live, but I haven’t been jumping at the chance to do it again anytime soon. That is, until the chance to see Sum 41 at the 2016 Van’s Warped Tour came along.
Traveling alone can be lonely at times, so I took the opportunity to meet some “locals” while here on Aruba. I’m glad I did. I met two wonderful islanders that afforded great conversation over dinner and drinks and I couldn’t be happier. Not only did meeting them make my trip a bit brighter, but it widened my perspective on how people from around the world think. To those of you who are planning on traveling by yourself, I would definitely recommend taking the opportunity to meet some of the locals at your destination. Thank you Sandra and Shanti for taking a change and meeting me while I was traveling. I had a great time and look forward to keeping in touch with you in the future!
Aruba has been my first solo travel trip – internationally at least – and it’s been a good learning experience. Some of the worries I had about solo travel before I left turned out to not be as big as I thought. There are some upsides and downsides to traveling alone. Here are a few things I’ve learned for future solo trips:
- Take advantage of room service. Eating alone at dinner isn’t much fun and doesn’t appeal to me, so I’ve leaned on room service quite a bit.
- Book some tours. You’ll not only see and experience some great things about the place you’re visiting, but you’ll meet some new and interesting people as well.
- Take a small medical kit. Some tours can get rough. Whether you’re cliff diving, hiking, or swimming, someone can get injured. Even if you don’t need it, someone on your tour might need a bandage or tape. Having a medical kit with you on the tour can make things better.
- Explore. Take the time to walk around the city and see the sights as best you can. If you’re hotel is a way off from the main areas, take a cab to a good starting point and see what the city/area has to offer.
- Bring some books. You’ll likely be spending more time by yourself than you would if you had a travel partner, so bring some books to pass the time.
- Meet some locals. Rather than just meeting fellow vacationers, take some time to meet some of the local people from the area. I’ve met some great people on Aruba that will likely turn into long term (remote) friendships.
I’d been thinking about trying skydiving for a while, so I jumped at the chance for my first jump while in Aruba. I had my Last Will and Testament drawn up recently, so I figured I could handle the risk to life knowing that my final wishes had been outlined. I’ve had a fear of heights all my life, but have been okay flying, so I wasn’t sure how skydiving would work for me. Overall, it was an awesome experience. The scariest part for me was hanging out the airplane before the jump, as well as the initial freefall. Once we were away from the plane and the chute opened I experienced a great sense of calm and awe as I surveyed the island from thousands of feet up. If you’re looking to try something daring that pushes your limits, I would definitely recommend skydiving. I’m happy to say I crossed off one of my bucket list items in life…
My trip to Greece is already booked and it’s only two months before I get to visit ancient sites and the island of Santorini with a new friend. Really looking forward to this trip, as Greece has been on my travel list for some time.
I haven’t jumped into the water from a cliff since I was in my teens during a BWCA trip, so the opportunity to cliff jump in the ocean off Aruba was something I couldn’t pass up. My jeep tour through Arikok park made a stop near “Little Aruba” for everyone to go jump. The cliffs weren’t super high by any means – probably only 30 feet or so high – but it was a thrilling experience jumping off into the ocean below. It was so good that after my first jump I quickly swam to shore and headed back up the hill to have a second jump. The feeling of plummeting through the air and landing in the mighty ocean was exhilarating. Swimming through the waves back to shore took more work than I thought, but it made me appreciate the power of nature and the awesome feel of sand beneath your toes when you finally make it to shore.
I’ve spent the first few days on Aruba exploring what it has to offer. Bottom line, it’s a beautiful island. The main hotel areas are busy with tourists, but if you venture to the north coast and Arikok park you’ll see the “other side” of the island. My first tour was through the park, where I had the opportunity of making my own stack of “wishing” stones on the beach. The tour eventually made it to “Little Aruba” where we were able to try cliff jumping. Great fun!
At the age of 41 (soon to be 42) I decided that there is no time like the present to kick my ass in gear and see the sights this world has to offer before I say farewell (hopefully many years down the line). I’ve made a list of over two dozen places on my immediate “travel bucket list” and have started checking that list off with Aruba. Once I’ve finished sunning myself in the Caribbean, I intend to turn my attention to Europe and see Greece. I studied art and archaeology in college and loved the ancient cultures, so I’ve wanted to go to Greece for many years now. I have to say that it feels rather thrilling to book the next big adventure. I think I’ll have to keep this new tradition of booking my next trip before my last one starts.
Less than 48 hours until I hit the tarmack heading to Aruba! A very exciting trip for me, as it’s the first new place I’ve been in the Caribbean in a long time.
Here are a few songs from my every-growing sex mix…
The last two days have done a fucking number on me. We all construct structures on which we lean in life. By structures I mean our career, relationships, home life, spiritual beliefs, etc. When one of those changes it can make for a tough time. When multiple structures dissolve or change it can pack a serious punch. And that can lead to emotional upheaval. That’s where I’ve found myself. And it hasn’t been all that fun.
I found this from the song list Zen By Design uses in their promotion of their TantraChair. When I listen to it I can’t help but imagine my soulmate will be thinking of me when she hears it.
Ahhh, the single life. There are certainly pros and cons to being single. Eating habits are one of them. I happen to have a slew of cookbooks on my shelves and the tools and hardware to make most anything I want, but I haven’t really been using them. And no, frying eggs over hard doesn’t really count as cooking. Neither does making waffles using the box mixes.
Despite the fact that I know what I should and shouldn’t be including in my diet, my eating habits have definitely slid back to what they were in my early twenties. I still try and eat organic and non-GMO when I can, but I must admit I’ve gotten lazy. Cooking for one sucks the big one. I have absolutely zero desire to eat leftovers for four days or clean a slew of pots of pans after spending the time to make a proper meal that is usually sized for 2-4 people.
I’ve started eating out more, ordering takeout or delivery, or going for quick “meals” that consist of an odd mashup of cereal, triscuits and cheese, nuts, and random fruit that happens to be in the fridge. I used to feel really guilty about not eating better, but I’m starting to get over it, Sometimes it’s just awesome to call an order of spicy boneless chicken wings and a beer “dinner”. Beats cereal (most) any night.
A great tune that’s in more than one of my playlists is “Memory” by SugarCult.
I read a great article over at MindBodyGreen on some of the things people mistakenly do when manifesting their dream partner. I’ve fallen into doing/thinking a few of these myself. Definitely a good read for those of you who are single and looking to find your special someone.
To me nothing captures the raw emotion and sensual excitement of new lovers than Ellie Goulding’s “Love Me Like You Do”.
In the years that have passed since I was twenty, I have been unable to forget about my first girlfriend I had at that time. Yes, I was twenty when I had my first girlfriend. I was a late bloomer compared to many others. It was a short relationship we had – lasting only about 8 months – but it has affected me greatly. There was something about that girl that I couldn’t forget. Even today, twenty years later, I still get butterflies when I think about her and me, and the times we shared back then. I haven’t felt the same way about any other relationship I’ve had like the the one I had with her. Last week I had an opportunity that I thought I’d never have again – to see her again and spend some time with her. It was amazing.
About a year ago I decided to start working out a bit to tone up and lose some unwanted weight. I purchased a Bowflex and started working out 1-2 times per week for about 30 minutes. It wasn’t a big workout routine, but it was something I figured I could stick with.
Combined with weekly sauna sessions in my infrared sauna, the workout seems to have done its job. I’ve toned up quite a bit, dropped about three inches off my waistline, downsized a full shirt size, and have dropped about 15 pounds – putting me back near my college weight. The photo above is a few months old now and I’ve toned up even more, which has prompted me to up my workout to 3-4 times per week to keep heading in the right direction. My goal has never been to become hulky – I just wanted to have a bit more definition and a routine that I wouldn’t stop. I’m happy to say I’ve found something I can stick with.
About a year ago I started using an infrared sauna on a regular basis. I had read about the benefits of infrared saunas and wanted to give one a try to see how it helped me. Infrared saunas are supposed to have many benefits that include helping to detoxify your body and potential weight loss. I had been developing regular headaches – many of which turned into migraines – and experiencing greater sinus allergies, so I was hoping that using a sauna would help me. It did.